Reinventing myself as a writer to distract me from my disability. Cat addict and narcissist survivor. Quora author, Vocal Media author, Chronic Pain Blogger.

I was one of the lucky ones. Lucky because I had the strength and the guts to leave him.

I knew what a narcissist was. I had married one before. It took me 18 years to escape the first one.

Somehow, I didn’t see this one coming.

In the beginning, everything was perfect. I had always thought he was the one. But then he wasn’t.

He was understanding. He…

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Lately, I feel like I am stuck in a turnstile, unable to move backward or forwards.

The mistakes of my past are strewn behind me in broken pieces. I have not always been a good person. I have taken advantage of those who meant only the best for me. I…

Sebastian lounging atop my pillow

Before Sebastian came into my life, I honestly did not know the meaning of unconditional love.

I have been a proud cat owner for many years. I have loved and lost kitties who I thought were special. Not one of them even came close to my Sebastian.

Something inside of…

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After 30 years doing proposal development and technical writing, I did not consider myself a writer until I discovered the content mills

Many of you might not consider writing web content to be writing, but in my eyes, it was my first real writing job.

My almost 30 years in Corporate America was rewarding, but towards the end, it was also somewhat robotic. The concepts and content of everything I did focused…

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Everything I have learned about caring for others has been destroyed by various narcissists throughout my life.

I have come to the realization that I care too much…about everything. It takes a lot of energy to care. It does not take a lot of energy to not give a fuck.

I’m hindsight, I ask myself what I would do if I could get back some of the…

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Today would have been his 60th birthday, and as bitter as I have been about what happened at the end, I also need to take a moment to actually mourn the good person he used to be.

Later in life, my ex became a narcissistic nightmare, but he really wasn’t…

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Resilience Can Be Found Everywhere We Look

When you are in a nightmare known as a narcissistic relationship, you can look around you and see one of two things: those things that can make you a victim, or those things that will give you strength and motivate your ass out the door in search of a better…

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